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Would You Rather Be Liked or Respected?

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liked or respected?This week, I’m doing something I don’t often do.

Taking a pause.

Asking you just one profound question, because I’m genuinely curious what your thoughts are.

Would YOU rather be liked or respected?  

The woman in the photo for this week really embodies a visual of a woman who might not be sure.  She wants to step off the porch and not care whether she’s liked – going for respect first, but she also finds herself clinging to her desire to be liked – she likes how it feels when others like her, but she wants to do something out of the ordinary.

So…..would you rather be liked or respected?  

For me personally, this is still often times a difficult challenge to navigate, but your answers could greatly help me with next week’s post.

Looking forward to your thoughts or comments…

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Comments(11)

  • June 10, 2013, 11:18 pm  Reply

    Respected, for sure.

    • June 11, 2013, 10:16 am

      Thanks for sharing, Juliana. I think I feel the same way. I’ve just been wondering lately if this is maybe one of the major things that keeps us from fully expressing ourselves freely – that need to be liked or rather, the fear of being disliked.

  • Sherilyn
    June 23, 2013, 9:56 pm  Reply

    Respected! Even when one “thinks” they’re liked. it is sometimes misleading….

    • June 23, 2013, 10:54 pm

      Oh, THAT is SUCH a good point!

  • Mary Catherine
    June 24, 2013, 10:28 pm  Reply

    I want to be respected

    • June 25, 2013, 12:05 am

      I can so see that in you, Mary Catherine! I have no doubt you’re a respectable woman too.

  • June 26, 2013, 2:03 pm  Reply

    For most of my life it has been to be liked. Part of maturing, and taking control of my life now has me needing respect, This requires that I assert my own authority on a lifetime of observing and analyzing human behavior and interaction from the inside out. perspective of childhood abuse. This is taking a bit more courage than I currently possess, but I am feeling is is necessary. however unwelcome some may find it. I want to help children, sooner than I figured out I needed it. To some extent, respect must be earned, the cost will be putting myself out there.

    • June 27, 2013, 3:08 pm

      Beautiful, Lisa! Thank you for sharing. It’s a beautiful journey to embark upon – and I DO think that being liked & respected can happen simultaneously.

  • kim
    August 19, 2014, 9:29 pm  Reply

    Not for any need to control, but I would rather be respected…for who i am, for my integrity…. then, those who like me, like me for me – and are of those I would rather be with. Respect is a foundation of something more, deeper. Instead of being liked….where there may be such a possibility of disrespect, where liking can be short term and shallow.

    • August 28, 2014, 8:48 pm

      I like this perspective, Kim! A lot. 🙂

  • November 5, 2014, 12:53 pm  Reply

    I can’t truly like someone unless they first have my respect. In turn, if someone says they like me but they don’t know me well enough to have learned to respect me, then it doesn’t mean much to me. We all want people to be fond of us. And generally speaking, I think it’s easy to generate feelings of good will between people who don’t know each other well. But for that to turn into something deeper, there absolutely must be respect.

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