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The Surprising Connection Between Wanting More and Being Enough

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0438e424b1b8b66ddaf065b97076be05T H E  S U R P R I S I N G  C O N N E C T I O N…

This week, I ask you a provocative question you’ve likely never been asked before.  I do this on occasion in this space, and I’d like your thoughts.

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Here’s what I know about us introverted women – we’re pretty darn resourceful.

Hand us just a little bit of rope or give us a nudge for a new idea, innovation, or project, and we can run with it. Especially if creativity is a dominant expression.

However, one of the greatest struggles I see with introverted women I work with is a lack of support she has from anyone who understands how to accurately reveal her existing resourcefulness and how she can play it up to her own advantage.

How do you meet your goals & fulfill your passions & dreams using natural talents, innate skill sets, and previous experiences.

That said – I ask you now

How have you learned or are you currently learning to make the connection between desiring more and being enough right where (and who) you are today?  

I’m very interested in your thoughts.  I’ll talk with you below…

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Comments(6)

  • August 20, 2013, 8:10 am  Reply

    Hi Tamisha – that’s such an interesting question. I don’t think I started to struggle with this until I left my job and started down the “personal development” route! Before then, I pretty much went with the flow. It was simply a matter of getting on with where and who I was at the time, and occasionally setting an intention for more, or better, or different in the future – and then keeping myself open to opportunities. When I got into “personal development”, the message from some people seemed to be that you “should” want more, and that if you don’t set goals, you’re just drifting – and that wasn’t good enough. I’ve recently realised that, as an introvert, I’m less motivated by material things and more motivated by how I feel about my life (I knew that already, but I hadn’t equated it to being an introvert – I just thought I must be strange!!). So now I’m trying to get back to taking life as it comes, rather than obsessing about how life could be “better”. So far, it seems to be working out OK! 🙂

    • August 20, 2013, 8:22 pm

      That’s beautiful, Julia. Thank you for sharing.

      I’ve recently realised that, as an introvert, I’m less motivated by material things and more motivated by how I feel about my life.

      I really identify with you here – in the past few years I have really made conscious choices about the energy and relationships I allow into my life in order to honor my motivations. And while I love to shop and love home decor & beautiful things, I don’t covet having those things to feel motivated or validated.

      As I’m writing to you, I’m thinking that’s the answer to the headline – motivation. Maybe motivation is the surprising connection between wanting more and knowing we’re enough.

      Maybe….

      Thank you for weighing in here, Julia.

    • Trish
      November 11, 2013, 5:35 pm

      Yes, that makes so much sense to me. I am the same way. Thank you for sharing.

      • November 11, 2013, 11:22 pm

        You’re SO welcome, Trish. Glad it resonated.

  • Lynette
    August 20, 2013, 6:44 pm  Reply

    Tamisha, when I read the paragraph that began “It’s one of the most common paradoxes of life – …..” it was as if you had reached into my mind and put my thoughts to paper. I have been struggling with this very thing for some time now. As I’ve gotten older, it has been harder to find that balance as my focus and desires have changed. I desire growth in certain areas of my life and to help others all while being accepted for who I am.

    I can relate to what Julian wrote about not being driven by material things and haven’t different goals than other people. My desire has always been to be fulfilled and the best at being me.

    So my current approach is to take a step back and really access what I want for my life, not what others think I should have, be, or aspire for. It is still a process but I’m taking baby steps.

    • August 20, 2013, 8:29 pm

      Lynette – thank you SO much for your kind words, and I’m glad it resonated with you.

      As I’ve gotten older, it has been harder to find that balance as my focus and desires have changed. I desire growth in certain areas of my life and to help others all while being accepted for who I am.

      I love that you mentioned our focus & desires changing, because it only adds to the complexity, right?

      I think what you mentions comes down to a mutual respect. It’s wonderful indeed to know the strengths we carry that we can share with others (and desire to give more OF), but in return, we need to feel supported and accepted for whatever eccentricities we have as well.

      Beautiful that you’re taking baby steps and getting rid of those “shoulds” in your life.

      T

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