[Podcast Ep. 9]: How to Be Confident Letting Go (Of It All)

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How to be confidentI recently spoke at a seminar on how to have a confident social media & marketing strategy, which caused me to pull out some of my favorite texts. These books actually live in my living room armoire now because I use them SO often here in my writing and in this space.

One of those such books I pulled out to get a quote from was Turning Pro by former Marine, Steven Pressfield. Literally, it’s one of my favorite books of all time. It’s so revolutionary in its ideas in fact, that it changed the way I view my work (life’s work) forever.

After I read that book, I started changing my daily disciplines toward becoming pro. It’s when I started being serious about the graphics on this site, the design aesthetic, my personal style, and my personal style blogging.

I launched my brand new & improved website at the beginning of 2015 after a 2-week re-design, hired a kick-ass photographer, and got way more serious about how I was showing up online as a masterful content creator. I also got entirely more innovative in how I do things here at Modernity. I started looking outside of my industry in places outside of my own in order to create a blue ocean – one where I could swim freely, so to speak – where no one was doing what I was doing how I was doing it.

In today’s episode, I’m reading you a short excerpt from Steven’s book and giving you some nuggets of wisdom I’ve learned on the art of letting go (and what I’m still learning about what it takes).

As a caveat, turning pro is not always related to work. In fact, turning pro requires a holistic mindset to accomplish it – it’s lifestyle, health, work, relationships, spiritual discipline, and more.

Areas where we can turn pro & let go:

What are some other areas you can think of where there is an opportunity to get uncomfortable for your ultimate greater good or purpose?

Leave me a comment & let me know.

So much gratitude for you listening!


Photography by Jeremy Pollack


  • Cassandra-
    May 1, 2016, 5:24 am  Reply

    Dear Tamisha,

    Thank you so much for this amazing podcast. Your voice is such a blessing in my life. One of the areas where I can Turn Pro is with honoring my personal boundaries and letting go of always feeling the need of explaining myself and my decisions to others. I was going to write a long story, but that’s just a habit of mine always looking for approval. You are so right Turning Pro is going to cost me to lose some people in my life, but I will also gain people that respect and honor their own boundaries. One thing that I have realized is that the ones that honor their own boundaries will not make you feel guilty for wanting to honor yours. I’m tired from always explaining myself for who I am to my colleagues, my manager/supervisor, family. I’m tired from always going after people that are doing nothing or very little to keep the communication going and always being the one doing all the work to maintain the relationship.

    • May 1, 2016, 10:00 pm


      Thank you for listening to this. I appreciate your kind words. I love what you’ve shared here regarding what area you can turn pro in – it’s a good one, and one I still work on as well. It’s so easy to get caught up in the trap of wanting to people-please. I think you’ll find as you honor your values & truth more carefully, better (and higher-quality) people will surround you and treat you with more respect. Thanks again for commenting & being a part of the conversation here.


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