From time to time, I will get questions from my readers in email, whether it’s to clarify something or explain something in more detail. On rare occasions, I also have people write me heartfelt beautiful emails who need advice. Since I’m an advisor, obviously I love it when I get questions in.
Recently, a male reader from this community reached out to me, and I wanted to share his question today, along with my advice and answer. Some information has been deleted and/or modified slightly to protect his identity.
[gdlr_divider type=”thick” size=”100%” color=”#000000″ ]Question from Sean:[gdlr_divider type=”thick” size=”100%” color=”#000000″ ]
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My question is: Are there some women who would be interested in dating me?Here’s a little bit about me. I’m an undergraduate student who re-entered college two years ago and is now very successful academically. I work part-time and attend school full-time, and I can articulate my long-term goals very well as well as the reasons I want to pursue these. But, that’s not all. I’m committed to my own personal growth and am working on the two most important human relationships there are: (1) my relationship to myself by working on my self-confidence and (2) my relationship to others by being more considerate, honest, and respectful.
However, I don’t have a car and not even a driver’s license. I simply don’t need these right now. I commute to work/school via bicycle 1.5 mi. each way. Furthermore, I still live with my dad and he is very gracious to allow me to do this as I pursue my long-term goals. So, getting a car, a license, and moving out are simply not my goals at this time. Rather, they reflect other people’s expectations instead of what I truly want. So, why create totally unnecessary burdens to live up to the expectations of people who don’t care (i.e., of society) and risk not attaining my goals? Of course, eventually, I do want to own a car, have a license, and move out. But, first things first.
Also, I’m unique in the sense of being very intelligent as well as talented in multiple areas such as music, writing, and photography, and a quirky though fun-loving and sometimes shy introvert.
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