About Tamisha & Distinction

The Definitive Source for Conscious Self-Assurance, Rooted Esteem, & Assertive Voice

About The Work We Do (Together)

How you FEEL about yourself, what’s going on inside, and your level of confidence internally is what is portrayed to others externally. This is why confidence doesn’t start with your clothes.

Tamisha Ford | Modernity Founder

Welcome to Distinction – my online home and heart work platform that tends to draw independent, somewhat refined, yet also free-spirited women who are learning the ebb & flow of balancing a busy modern society with internal growth & development. The result is a deeper rooted consciousness and elevated confidence in herself. We’re going for sustainable – a knowing within you haven’t had that feels solid for your intuition to return to over and over. Doesn’t that feel clear?

Whether you’re an independent single modern female, a Momma doing her best, or an aspiring entrepreneur or businesswoman, you may consistently feel a need to balance what’s happening within you with what you express outside of you. i.e. you’re growing, but people around you don’t seem to be. OR you’re learning new things and the people around you think you’re crazy. OR you’re wanting to make external changes as a result of internal growth & you’re not sure how to do it gracefully.

This is Where I Hope to Come In

Offering Harmonious Clarity

Confidence is visible, yes. But it’s also invisible. Properly cultivated and expressed, it should be first invisible. True exploration of what we’re sure about within ourselves begins with guided self-discovery, decreased judgement, increased compassion, and finding blind spots. From what we learn internally, self-expression allows you to express this beautiful person that’s emerging in new ways.

Something I’m SURE of – our confidence doesn’t originate in things that have form (i.e. cars, houses, clothes, money), but in what has no form – literally what is without form, such as consciousness, awareness, attention, presence and understanding.

Your Confidence, Expressed

Before confidence can be genuinely expressed, it must be internally developed. Anything less than this carries a manipulative vibe and false sense of surety others can & will feel.

Distinction, which started as an online catalog over 2 years ago, has now become the anchor name of this site, because it really captures what I want you (and me) to discover – what makes us distinct? And the way we answer that is by exploring the deep internal worlds of ourselves AND how we express that self to the world.

We will talk about spirituality, relationships, creating beautiful spaces, conversations, assertiveness, and other topics that are related to how we bridge these 2 worlds within ourselves.

Readers and Past Clients Expressing Love

It wasn’t until I stumbled across your web site that I began to view myself in a different light

I am going through an “introspective” phase in my life, trying to learn my true self. As part of this process, I’m hoping to become more expressive (aka assertive) in my day-to-day life. For so long I have questioned why I felt so different and alone, even with friends and acquaintances. I knew I wasn’t “anti-social” as some would say. I do enjoy my “alone” time more because it allows me to just be myself, unapologetically. And yes, I have insecurities but I always felt it was more than that. It wasn’t until I stumbled across your web site that I began to view myself in a different light and even consider myself as being an introvert. Ultimately, I want to accept myself totally and fully.


I’m so glad there are people like you and I’m excited to learn from your wisdom

I’m so glad there are people like you and I’m excited to learn from your wisdom- thank you for doing what you do! I initially didn’t sign up to your newsletter, as I already get quite a few newsletters (!) and with the upcoming move & my business prep, I was wary of adding another… Except that night I kept thinking of your site and your name kept popping into my head, so I just knew that I had to sign up… the next day I did. It definitely makes me feel that I was meant to find my way to you!


Thank you for the opportunity to learn more about myself through the content on your website

Thank you for the opportunity to learn more about myself through the content on your website. I have always considered myself an extrovert and was always puzzled with the discomfort I felt at times in situations where extroverts are at their most comfortable. As it turns out I’m more of an outgoing introvert. How’s that for complicated? I did the eval on your page upon registering with the site and found some interesting things.

The most incredible thing I learned was how neglectful I’ve been of myself in terms of the modalities where I’m dominant. I don’t know if that makes any sense but to give you a concrete scenario, I recently took up salsa dancing as a form of exercise and completely froze when I realized I was using it as a form of expression. I love to dance and don’t mind being the center of attention (outgoing) but when I realized others could see through me (self-expression) through my dancing I nearly lost it.

I guess I realized that certain things I’d boxed up over the years were coming out through my dancing and it became too overwhelming for me. Now I guess it’s time to learn to be okay with being an introvert and learning more about the ways in which I can comfortably express myself. Thanks for providing this space in which to do all this. Tall orders my friend!


I would recommend this solution to any woman

I didn’t have any hesitations about coaching. Everything was well laid out ahead of time, and I received more than I expected. The feature that I liked best about this product/service was the personalized Pinterest storyboard. I would recommend this solution to any woman who is more interested in knowing how her dominant forms of expression are playing a role in who she is at this moment in her life, and who she wants to be in the future.

Patricia Y. | Former Coaching Client

This will be my ”go to” for some as-needed confidence building for many years to come.

I was not 100% sure what the final outcome or goal would be for the price of the service…the more I read, the more I knew that I needed to learn more and in some way be involved. I had put off jumping in because of both time and finances. With two daughters in college, I wanted to be certain this was something that would benefit me to the fullest. It did!
I have read through my personalized results numerous times now, and each time I read it I understand a little more about myself and why it is important to understand who, what and where I am in my life. The process has actually sky-rocketed my confidence by allowing me to understand how far I have come in many different areas. It has also helped reset my mindset regarding my abilities and accomplishments and has caused me to be more secure with where I am today. I feel more positive, confident and clear and ready to move forward in all areas of my life.
The service was very complete and left me feeling like I received a lot more than I expected!  The best part was the outcome – learning about my strengths and how I can use them going forward. I love how much new material I received and love all the bonuses and extras!  I feel like working with Tamisha has completely accelerated my path.  This service is unique, valuable and useful – a game changer!
I am so appreciative for all the hard work and heart that Tamisha put into this. My experience was exceptional. Thank you!  This will be my ”go to” for some as-needed confidence building and even some direction for many years to come.
Deb M. | Former Coaching Client

The rewards reaped were much larger than expected

Just a huge thank you for allowing me to be part of working with you.  It felt as if our session was a years’ worth of therapy wrapped up into 90 minutes.   I have a greater sense of self. Just yesterday, I found myself impatient with my children. I quickly remembered what you told me about being in control. I asked myself what was I trying to control and quickly realized I just needed to redirect my focus. Both myself and my children thank you.
There are two things I loved most:  One – you challenged my perception of myself. And you were spot on. Two – you gave me tangible, actionable things to implement in my life that will make a difference, including a custom book list which I eagerly anticipate getting my hands on.  I’ve used some of the techniques you gave me for business conversations too, and I’ve had so much more confidence.  I decided to embrace my shyness and work through it instead of over it.  It’s going to take time, but I feel so much better. And that’s more than I had before, so thank you.
I worried about my availability to do this. I thought I wouldn’t have enough time, but the time commitment on my part was minimal. In fact, the most time I’ve spent was completing the questionnaire which took about 2 hours. That time was so beneficial, and the rewards reaped were much larger than expected.  If you are a woman and struggle with understanding yourself or how to portray your specific personality traits as an advantage or want to learn how to help others understand you, I recommend coaching with Tamisha wholeheartedly.
Taynia A. | Former Coaching Client

I’m stronger in areas than even “I” believe I am

I loved the Confident Type Assessment! It helped me to see that I am stronger in areas than even I believe I am; and upon reflection, I realized that it is quite accurate on my highest number. Thank you!

Sherilyn B

It’s such a beautiful assessment

I love this assessment! It’s such a beautiful assessment and doesn’t feel stiff like some of these often do. I didn’t read any of the other descriptions, but I definitely felt that the one’s I read fit me. I’ve even used some of the words you used in describing myself. That was cool to see.

Jess M.

Incredibly Accurate

I really liked the Confidence Types Assessment and feel like it was incredibly accurate. I also love the use of Greek terminology! I think the explanations were definitely on target. I don’t think I can pick one of the two that I am more drawn to. I think my confidence comes from a combination of the two. I really connected to the “My worlds and expressions” of each that were outlined for me. They were spot on. And the “Be careful of” section was really great too.

Megan F | Analyst & Photographer

Why I'd Love You to Stick Around

I'm Deeply Passionate

This business and everything I’m attached to is filled with very loving energy. If I didn’t deeply care about you, I wouldn’t be doing this work. Passion & power are two of my greatest strengths, and they are put to their highest expression in my teaching.

Unique Point of View

I’m not as much a coach as a teacher. My methodologies are nuanced from personal experience that has served lots of women. It’s designed to shift your perspective. I’m okay with you experiencing a little bit of disruption as a result of what you learn here.

I Think Globally

This site has garnered hundreds of thousands of readers and subscribers internationally, which is a reflection of my heart & mind. The core of my work is to empower YOU to see yourself changing & thus, feel part of a change on a larger scale.

Love Excellence

When I care about someone or something, they get WELL over 150% effort and love. As you can see from this site, I keep it real, excellent (not perfect), passionate, outspoken, and uncluttered in all aspects.

I Share Everything

I’m proud to say the highly distinct content I write & produce here is viewed and valuable all over the world. I feel a responsibility to share my knowledge and wisdom with my readers & clients – it’s a calling.

I'm Not For Them All

I love to laugh! I’ll choose it over bad, negative energy ANY day. I take my work and my readership very seriously and not so much myself. My straight-shooter personality and direct-ness isn’t appreciated by all, and I’m completely okay with that.