Welcome to a new monthly highlight installment on Modernity called Quiet Confidence, November’s feature highlighting author Zadie Smith. Here, I’ll feature women I either know or discover who have (in my opinion) the only kind of confidence that’s true & pure; the quiet kind.
You’ve heard that phrase that confidence is silent and insecurities are loud? It’s true. If you have to tell people you’re confident, you’re probably not. It’s much like power in that way – we emit what we truly are so that no words are necessary.
When a confident woman walks into a room, people know it. Intuitively. They feel her energy, because pure confidence is hot energy and comes within. It may express itself in a “cool” fashion or with a cooler exterior, but the heat of her inner resolve is what people feel most.
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It was about a week or two ago I got the idea to do this monthly feature when I saw a gorgeous write-up in the New York Times on this author I’m featuring today, Zadie Smith. I typically don’t share already-written content, but alas, you get to change your mind in modern content creation. :-)
I think you will benefit from and love this new feature each month. What could be bad whatsoever about seeing other real women like us highlighted for their pure confidence to help us take the next step?
Briton, Jamaican, mother, writer, & female, Zadie Smith gets really REALLY real about her new book, her former novels, and her life.
I absolutely LOVED this piece. Here’s some highlights:
Zadie, in person, has an approachable, immensely welcoming air, to readers, fellow writers, doormen, cabbies, everyone she meets. She comes at you with that Nefertiti face, but then she makes a joke, or laughs, and her slightly snaggle-toothed smile puts you at ease, bringing with it all the warmth, chumminess and hugger-mugger family feeling of a girl from the Athelstan Gardens council estate. Zadie’s status as a former ugly duckling has given her a provisional attitude toward her looks. “I did not mind dressing up for strangers,” her narrator remarks in a passage Zadie admits is characteristic of her own story, “but in our rooms, within our intimacy, I could not be a girl, nor could I be anybody’s baby, I could only be a female human.”
BECOMING A PERSON, of course, means finding your people, and your place among them. For Zadie, who is biracial, this process wasn’t easy. She undertook her first trip to Jamaica, her mother’s birthplace, under duress. “It was the last place I wanted to be,” she says. “I believe my mother had a boyfriend there. I didn’t realize that until we got there. I just wanted to be in London with my friends. I was allergic to everything. I was too hot, I was sunburned. I didn’t want to belong to the place.”
I love what she says about writing being a way of slowing down time. I think we can learn from this discipline how that is beneficial for us and our inner resolve.
How much more RESOLVED would we be about things (and perhaps a tad bit more accepting) if we took the time to PROCESS it consistently?
Lessons from Zadie. :-)
I sincerely hope you enjoy this feature. I’ll connect you to shop her books directly from my Amazon store below.